Enneagram

 Yesterday a group of friends and I had the chance to get to know each other in a more detailed way thanks to the enneagram. For those of you who dont know, the enneagram is basically a map which main  road  is the way to find the core of who we are with the goal of gradually learning ourselves on a spiritual level to grow into a  better self and use that to make a difference in our lives. It has been one of the best references for myself to look back at to help me through my toughest times. Not only have I grown with the help of getting to know myself with this test, but I've also gotten to know and  understand how others can be and why and how to cope with that. 


I'm an eight (The challenger); some adjectives that describe me are being  bold, self confident, just, resourceful and protective. There are many other characteristics and stages that can define me as a whole, and as anyone we all have our strengths and weaknesses, our sides, and we've all drifted from one side to another at some point in our lives. Here's an overview of what the enneagram says about me:Type Eight

There's obviously a lot that I can do to make it easier for people to get along with me, but if you're curious to know some key points on how to do that on your own without my help and do it well, here are some REALLY important things to know:


How to get along with me:


-Stand up for yourself...and me. I like confrontations!


-Be confident, strong and direct. Again, I like a person who speaks their mind.


-Dont gossip about me or betray my trust. Big no no.


-Be vulnerable and share your feelings. See and acknowledge my tender vulnerable side. I'm softer than I look and its special when I show you that.


-Give me space to be alone. Understand that I dont mind it, I actually need it.


-Acknowledge the contributions I make, but don't flatter me. If I clean, keep it clean, and I dont know how to answer to a compliment so just keep it to yourself, I know I look good,thank you but no thank you. 


-I often speak in an assertive way. Don't automatically assume it's a personal attack. Don't react too fast to my reaction, I promise I make sense once I get that first blow up out of my system and I definitely do not appreciate assumptions.


-When I scream, curse, and stomp around, try to remember that's just the way I am. I've managed to keep that under control, but I have my moments.


I hope you dont think I'm a controlling freak now. I'll admit that there have been times where I've let the worst take over me and I've lived the consequences of it. I work on myself everyday to become the best that I can be, I'm a failure most days, but a lot has carried me to a healthier level with myself and I'm a living witness of how wonderful things are when I make the effort to allow my weakness to be my strength.  I encourage everyone to learn themselves with a more  clear understanding of why you are how you are and what your healthiness can achieve in your life and relationships, the enneagram is the best way to start.